tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34457772.post8291537862611233824..comments2023-10-26T04:48:32.186-07:00Comments on Three Lives: EpilogueThe Usual Suspecthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17217168765715088508noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34457772.post-37739657391563685212007-02-18T20:02:00.000-08:002007-02-18T20:02:00.000-08:00TUSYour story is very moving. You are brave to sh...TUS<BR/><BR/>Your story is very moving. You are brave to share it.<BR/><BR/>Tell me though, why are there no women's groups in Australia like <A HREF="http://pommygranate.blogspot.com/2007/02/ni-putes-ni-soumises-and-gina-khan.html" REL="nofollow">these people</A>?<BR/><BR/>Or are there?pommygranatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06913108500217273049noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34457772.post-55326242286946760992007-02-15T04:07:00.000-08:002007-02-15T04:07:00.000-08:00I'm sorry you experienced what you did. I hope you...I'm sorry you experienced what you did. I hope you don't ever buy in to the guilt and shame people may try to project onto you. Whenever I question a decision I've made, I remind myself that if it IS a mistake, it's MINE to make dammit!TeacherLadyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01040838269256696232noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34457772.post-63004203204510193702007-02-15T03:23:00.000-08:002007-02-15T03:23:00.000-08:00Racoon and Howie- behave!Peter- you need to respon...Racoon and Howie- behave!<BR/><BR/>Peter- you need to respond to my next post!<BR/><BR/>RK- Yes- I did it for 6 years- stuck in a marraige that was unhappy and abusive- something about the shadows that keeps you there!<BR/><BR/>Wendy and Lilly- thank you. Lilly I don't think I will ever talk to my parents about this- ever- they have erased those years- there are no photos of me during that time and our family simply does not talk about what happened then- like time skipped those years.The Usual Suspecthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17217168765715088508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34457772.post-9941188454088514112007-02-14T06:59:00.000-08:002007-02-14T06:59:00.000-08:00Howie -With the aid of the Elders, the Raccoonish ...Howie -<BR/><BR/>With the aid of the Elders, the Raccoonish Nation is taking over the world.<BR/><BR/>Mwuahahahahaaha! :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34457772.post-72655260946285165892007-02-14T05:31:00.000-08:002007-02-14T05:31:00.000-08:00Tagged!Tagged!Mumbo Jumbohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12583195616686936966noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34457772.post-16228912454408201802007-02-12T10:33:00.000-08:002007-02-12T10:33:00.000-08:00Mmmm... ham...*munch munch*Mmmm... ham...<BR/><BR/>*munch munch*Abu Sa'arhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13759233794742423769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34457772.post-70887018770834752352007-02-12T09:01:00.000-08:002007-02-12T09:01:00.000-08:00*sticks a tongue out at Howie*You mother was a ham...*sticks a tongue out at Howie*<BR/><BR/>You mother was a hamster and your father smells of elderberries!<BR/><BR/>*snigger* :)Abu Sa'arhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13759233794742423769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34457772.post-15603102100691177332007-02-12T02:41:00.000-08:002007-02-12T02:41:00.000-08:00I think Howie is right. The one who should be asha...I think Howie is right. The one who should be ashamed of is your parents. But, this is how they were brought up, to honour things, not people. I think you've chosen good when you haven't rejected them at all. It's not easy, it will sting as you say, but forgivness is foundation. Maybe, maybe, one day you should start to talk with them about everything and try to show them where they were wrong. Anyhow, respect to you :)<BR/>LillyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34457772.post-20156214196975586002007-02-11T11:07:00.000-08:002007-02-11T11:07:00.000-08:00TUS, you have a lovely spirit there. I am so sorry...TUS, you have a lovely spirit there. <BR/><BR/>I am so sorry that you carried this secret alone for so long, and for the neglect and abandonment you experienced at a time when you needed support and affimation. I'm so glad you are getting that now, it seems from many avenues. <BR/><BR/>Our souls do cry out for dignity, not based on what we do or don't do, but just because of who we are, eternal beings crafted by the hand of God. I found great healing and comfort from the wounds of my childhood abuse, "Wayne" days and later divorce (yea, me too, same shame) from the Great Physician, Jesus Christ. I have an article about Mary, the mother of Jesus on my blog that talks about stigma and shame. Maybe you would find it helpful...writing it helped me as your posts have helped you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34457772.post-35367729405150491062007-02-10T20:52:00.000-08:002007-02-10T20:52:00.000-08:00You battle with dignity...You battle with dignity...Carmenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272008864071799695noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34457772.post-19019408735284863512007-02-10T16:29:00.000-08:002007-02-10T16:29:00.000-08:0020 years is a long, long time... And yet...What do...20 years is a long, long time... <BR/><BR/>And yet...<BR/><BR/>What do you mean, epilogue?<BR/><BR/>This is like Hemingway slapping an epilogue down right after the old man feels a tug on his line!<BR/><BR/>TUS, you're a brilliant writer. Seriously. I am really looking forward to reading your book, if it's half as good as your previous three posts. <BR/><BR/>I know that I am being a selfish Raccoon by begging you to continue the story... especially knowing how hard it must be to write it... but by the Gods, you have a got a story to tell and the gift of telling it. There's so much badly written and irrelevant crap being spewed in ink and electrons... badly needed counterbalance. Imagine how many people you can help, inspire or save just by writing and publishing this. How many thousands, if not millions, are experiencing something akin to what you've experienced but lack the strength to rise and resist - people who might take the needed strength from your words.<BR/><BR/>So... please continue?<BR/><BR/>*big Raccoonish eyes staring up*Abu Sa'arhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13759233794742423769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34457772.post-352013029116894742007-02-10T15:05:00.000-08:002007-02-10T15:05:00.000-08:00So, basically, those women in your family (out of...So, basically, those women in your family (out of those 100) who had bad marriages chose to stick to community norm instead of common sense?<BR/><BR/>They be weak women. And ye be one strong human being, TUS.<BR/><BR/>It's difficult for me to blame them, mind. Peer pressure is a strong barrier to break. I'm just glad you did. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34457772.post-42587970912655390762007-02-10T09:30:00.000-08:002007-02-10T09:30:00.000-08:00"the first woman in my ENTIRE family [..]100 peopl..."the first woman in my ENTIRE family [..]100 people [..} get divorced and [..] marry a khawaga (gringo)."<BR/><BR/>And you're stronger than a100. You're<BR/>one awesome human being.Fætter Vimshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07792380478742879671noreply@blogger.com